Where are the girls????????

it seems that most lesbians (perhaps where I live?) are pretty butch, but that does nothing for me-I'm attracted to girls. Not over the top, but looks feminine (long hair, girl's clothing, maybe a little make up). I'm not super girly, but i like the way women look and i like looking like one. I have a hard time finding a woman like me-chill, consistent, and pretty level headed, but not dudeish. Where are they?